No matter what you’ve heard, 30 isn’t the new 20, and 40 isn’t the new 30, especially when it comes to work, relationships and your finances. It’s time to start approaching each year — and each decade — more intentionally. This week we’re diving into why this is true with the therapist every millennial (including Kelly) wishes she had on speed dial, Dr. Meg Jay, author of “The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter And How to Make the Most of Them Now.” Dr. Jay teaches us how to take control, reduce our anxieties and build “identity capital” (trust us, you need it). In Mailbag, we help a woman broach the conversation of having more financial say with her controlling husband. And if you’re one of the many who’ve wanted to throw rotten tomatoes at MoviePass’ customer service (or lack thereof), we’ve got you covered. We put Hayden on the case and she came back with a direct line for everyone.